Personal Ads. They’re kinda sleazy write-ups about yourself that you put in the paper to get people to get in contact with you for dates, right? No, actually, not so much. The kind of personal ad that I’m talking about is the Havi Brooks type of personal ad.
Thing 1:
Here’s what I want:
My Thing. (If you’re reading Fluent Self, this makes more sense.)
Hello, my Thing. I know you’re out there. I know you want to meet me as much as I want to meet you. I know you’re creative, and you just might be a bit OCD-ish, but that just means that we’re meant to be. I can’t tell if you’re writing or programming or game designing, or anything else in the world, but I know I want to find you.
Ways this could work:
You could just show up in a blinding flash of realization.
You could sneak up on me when I’m doing something related to you and I could recognize you.
You could sidle up to me when I’m doing something else and I could find you.
My commitment:
I want to find you, but I’m scared of you. I’m afraid that if I find you, I’ll be stuck with you and I’ll feel stuck, which isn’t what I want at all. So I commit to meeting with my fear and talking to it and see if I can get the stuck out. After that, I hope I can commit to doing my Thing and not being scared (at least, not all the time).
Thing 2:
Here’s what I want:
A job. I would like one that allows me to pay off $1,000 a month on personal debt, keeps me busy and happy, but not too busy, interests me, and ideally, has to do with my Thing, or leads me to find my Thing.
I would also like to not have to interview for the job, since interviews hardly tell any of my prospective employers anything good about me (I don’t interview well; I get too nervous). I’m alright with making a personal connection and finding out about the job in a casual way, and my employer or manager getting to know me in a similar way.
Ways this could work:
I could find the perfect job on the online job boards, and apply.
A network contact could find it and remember me.
It could fall in my lap in some other way that isn’t occurring to me right now.
My commitment:
I will work and learn quickly. I be so awesome that I’ll remind you, my job, of the Manchurian Candidate and how everyone only had good things to say about Raymond Shaw (without the brainwashing, promise). I will be happy to have you, especially if you don’t drown me in minutia like being at my desk at 8:30 am, sharp, and corporate rules. The more I impress and help my managers and teammates, the more I’ll be committed to doing my best.
Well, there they are.
Hopefully this will make things clearer for me, and maybe the search for these things will become easier. And maybe, just maybe, someone will read this and be able to help me out with one or both of my personal ads.
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